This evening Darrin and I had dinner with three other couples--all MOM's. I, of course was the token lesbian, Darrin the token straight guy. After dinner, as couples often do, the females drifted away from the males to talk about female oriented "stuff". I was asked by one of them if I was more comfortable with the men. The answer, of course, is yes. I'm far more comfortable around gay men than any other subgroup. This is not something I choose, necessarily.
I thought about one of the couples. I've chatted extensively with the husband, online and on the phone--but never with his wife. She's completely comfortable with that, and should be, I suppose, considering the orientation of both her husband and myself. I thought about how much I love having that friendship. AtP said this weekend that some of the "acceptable" norms just don't apply to gay people. I guess that's true, but one day I'd like to feel more drawn toward being in the female group, than hanging out with the gay guys. No offense, guys, I love you to death, it just makes me feel a little more odd than I'd like to.
I have no idea why I'm posting this. But I'm just going to say, to end this post: Salad, Leslie, Boo, and Fourth Girl--you're some of the most amazing straight girls I've ever met. That's all.
I'm straight (I'm pretty sure) and I usually end up wanting to hang out with the guys too. It's not that I don't want to hang out with the girls, but I've noticed this more in this ward that the guys are usually talking about school or politics and the women are talking about scrapbooking. Blah. Personally I prefer it when we can all get together and talk about intelligent things as a group, guys and girls.
ReplyDeleteI'm much more inclined to hang out with the gay guys than any of my straight friends (male or female), so I really don't think you're an exception to any rule.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed the time we spent with you and look forward to future visits. I was actually talking to Drex this morning about a trip to your neck of the woods...that could be fun.
The same goes for gay guys. We would rather hang out with women. I can make friendships with women relatively easy, but men on the other hand are freaking hard! I even have some trouble getting along with some gay men. I try to make friendships with straight men, but it rarely works out. I think that all of us have our own struggles with certain groups and making friendships with those groups. BTW, it was good to meet you on Sunday.
ReplyDeleteNobody ever schedules moho dinners where and when I can go. :-(
ReplyDeleteL, you're such a liar! I totally tried to schedule one with you but you said you were too busy that day. And I even invited you to our reception. Maybe if you weren't such a homophobe it would work out ;)
ReplyDeleteI, too, tend to drift toward the gay men. I've sort of given up on trying to change that. *shrugs*
ReplyDeleteFoxyj: Me, too. Mixed group discussions have always been my preference. There's a dynamic there that I really love. Someday I should meet you and add you to my list of amazing straight girls.
ReplyDeleteSalad: Come!! Anytime!
Gimple: I was happy to meet you, as well. :)
L: Do we still have a date in the year 2016?
Stephalumpagus: I think you need to join my group of amazing straight girls, too.